WHEN A LESSON IS A PAINFUL ONE

Since everything in life is a lesson, one of our most important responsibilities to ourselves is to be aware of the things that happen to us, and the ways in which we respond. However, when a lesson is a painful one, we tend to get frustrated or angry with the messenger, thus missing the message the Universe sent us.
We act, hope and pray that lessons will come in positive and joyful ways. Being conscious and loving allows us to learn many lessons quickly and joyfully. In this way, we improve our lives. We stop hurting ourselves and others, become more patient, loving and forgiving, and start to see life’s blessing. We stop fighting with our parents, siblings, or others close to us. It’s not always easy to take the high road, but the feeling of doing the right thing for our soul, brings with it a sense of purpose and happiness.
Inevitably, there will be some unpleasant lessons. When that happens, usually our first reaction is to find someone to blame for our “misfortune.” If we feel that someone wronged us, we get upset with that person, and at times even look for a payback. We become so preoccupied with how it happened, and who to blame that we forget there is a higher purpose for everything in life. At this point, we should attempt to see the higher purpose of this experience. Remember, for example, that the pain you feel after a friend hurts you is a manifestation of a lesson which comes from a much higher place than the one your friend is in right now. You should not condone hurtful behavior, but remember; everything that happens to you, brings with it an opportunity for the soul to evolve. Realizing that this friend was only a tool for a lesson that came with much love, will help direct your energy and response in the right direction.
Understanding that the lesson you are experiencing was given by the Universe with the outmost love, you learn to respond with love. This does not mean hugging those who hurt you, but checking with your higher self for the proper response. This will help your soul learn, evolve and grow closer to the Source of all things, to God. Even if you decide to leave a relationship, wish no harm to the parson you leave. Think about those times when you were capable of hurting others, and take joy in your new ability to consider forgiveness as a way of responding. Know that if this person knew better, he or she would never hurt you, nor themselves. Have compassion, since that person is not yet in a place of love and light. Have patience knowing that the love of the Universe is working with him too. Finally, after looking inside, and seeing the love that is within you, use the goodness of your heart, and find the right way to respond to a painful lesson. Doing so fulfills your higher purpose, allowing your soul to evolve.